Long Gone

A long distance relationship is doomed one. Now, this may come off as harsh or dramatic, but after just getting out of a long distance relationship, I can say this with full confidence. According to Statistic Brain, over 40 percent of long distance couples break up. I started a friend that graduated last year from my college. She had always been someone I found extremely attractive, and enjoyed spending time with due to our many shared interest. A year goes by, she moves home after graduation, and visits campus for a concert; which is when we started dating. Why we decided to find a romantic interest in each other after she graduated, I do not know. I do know that it was an incredible relationship while it lasted, made up of new passion and excitement. I would often think about how weird it was that I was dating someone I considered a good friend, but I would also question why I was dating someone during my senior year of college. Additionally, someone who isn’t even in the same city as I am. I began to think I was just keeping the relationship going after a few months out of the fear of being lonely. Our society is built around the idea that being in love, or even just having someone to go on a date with, provides validation to an individual. The magazine, Thrillist noted that 57 percent of millennials feel lonely without a partner. I never understood those who felt it was a necessity to be in a relationship, but I began to see their point. All in all, the relationship ended due to distance. She would always want me out there, and I always wanted her to visit me. The worst part is that we are not even speaking to each other now after dating for 6 months and breaking up. I feel that we did not truly examine or realize that we were getting into a long distance relationship, or what that even meant. It was all new territory for me. Psychology Today reported that 59 percent of lovers remain Facebook friends after breaking up, which she and I have; but refuse to text or call each other. I am still debating if I should have tried to of made the relationship work, or the friendship.