What would the world be like if marriage was a construct of the past, a completely abolished tradition? That’s the world that Laylee would love to live in, and one that more and more millennials are jumping on board with. A recent Urban Institute report predicted that “an unprecedented portion of millennials will remain unmarried through age 40”.
“I think more people are just starting to date people for like a really long time
Rather than get married, People should date for ten years before they get married” Laylee says. This thought process is not unique since more and more millennials are finding the thought of marriage to be archaic. But why is that? Laylee gives some unique insight on the subject by saying “I don't even think people will get married anymore. And if they do, it'll be for tax purposes”. She continues on to say “I think cuz people are becoming more aware that gender isn't real and sexuality doesn't even matter anymore, Like our generation is stemming away from the norm fast”. Laylee also made a fantastic point that even I have noticed over the years and that is how the value put on friendships are higher than ever. According to The Insider, “They prefer hanging out to dating, renting to buying and living together to marriage. It’s not that they don’t want a commitment — they do. They are having meaningful relationships and there have been studies that show they’re actually having less sex at their age than prior generations — so it’s not they want freedom to sleep around. They just don’t want to get married”.
But why are we straying away from a previously rejoiced and embraced tradition? What changed our minds within a couple generations? Laylee says she has the answer to this, “I think because people change if you can't even date someone for ten years why would marry them after two years. My parents dated for 6 months and then got married, And it clearly changed”. This could be a very probable reason as to why we are straying from the norm. We could possibly be learning from older generations and applying it to our real world, changing the societal norm at a rapid rate.
She continues on to say that this rapid change is a good thing, “marriage is just another heteronormative patriarchal thing that we need to abolish. Like the whole history of marriage is racist and sexist. I’m all here for legal unions”. So not only are our views and perspectives changing but we are shaping our own life experiences and making it legal. “I think people are more vocal about it now” Laylee says, “cuz people are more open to experience love in any shape or form with companionate love being apart of it”. And what would her advice be to anyone confused by the changing times? “I would tell them to live their truth. And to take their time. And that love can never be rushed”.
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